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I'm a 32 year old woman. I'm an artist, and I'm into the Gothic subculture. Things that I enjoy include but are not limited to 80's Music, Reading, Drawing, Animation, Playing bass guitar, Gothic rock, indie music, horror films, anime, comics, video games, and sci-fi novels. I don't know what I'd do without music, and art. I listen to Siouxsie and the Banshees way more than I should.
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Date: 2017-10-21 03:56 am (UTC)Yes, I don't mean to say you're wrong, exactly. Just that the ways we perceive things may have changed rather than actual social change...
I sometimes think there should some kind of colour coded wristband system like for dogs where green is for "feel free to chat, I love meeting people", yellow is for like, " I'm not down for a conversation, but if you need to ask directions or something I'll help out" and red is for "Do not approach, not up for human interaction."
And then people who want to make connections know who's up for it, and people who just want a quiet train ride can get left in peace without having to feel rude shutting someone down.
On 21 Oct 2017 11:04, "illusion_is_mine - DW Comment" < dw_null@dreamwidth.org> wrote:
[image: illusion_is_mine: (Fallout: Vault Boy)] illusion_is_mine https://illusion-is-mine.dreamwidth.org/profile replied to a comment you left in a Dreamwidth entry "people are stranger when you're a stranger" https://illusion-is-mine.dreamwidth.org/57644.html. The comment they replied to was:
I am very much unconvinced that people talk to strangers less now than in the past: perhaps the signs that they don't want to get into a conversation are just more obvious (eg earbuds), where previously it would have taken the tone of their reply to let you know they weren't up for a chat right now. I'm pretty sure this is a good thing, because people are not super good at reading into the tone of voice or body language of strangers and putting in earbuds makes everything much clearer.
So perhaps we've replaced a whole lot of brief, polite conversations with silence, but I am not convinced that significant connections were made in those. I don't think anyone reveals much common ground in a chat with a stranger in a public place.
Perhaps this is a region-specific thing, and people are chattier in Australia? So you are seeing a loss of connection that doesn't happen to me? Not sure.
The reply was:
I'm sure it's region specific tbh. I've noticed it a lot here in the US, but I'm sure it's different in other places. You do have a point that maybe it's just become more obvious that they don't want to be bothered. I also think it has to do with a change within myself lately. When I was more standoffish, and to myself I never paid it any attention. Now it's becoming way more obvious since I've become a little bit more outgoing I guess. Everyone has unique experiences with this sort of thing so I was just giving my own opinion about it.
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